I’ve decided to give up ‘sacrifice’ for Lent. For too long in my life the word was synonymous with failing to pay attention to my own genuine needs and concerns. Perhaps this is a shadow side of being the oldest male in my family; my role has been to be the oak that supports the structure of our lives. One of the corrosive dimensions of failing to be honest about my own needs, fears and struggles is anger and resentment towards others when they make legitimate claims on me. My anger surprises and hurts them; even my closest family and friends have been casualties.
So, for Lent I’m giving up ‘sacrifice’ if that means ignoring what is going on in my heart, mind and soul. I’m learning that when I do this, no one’s needs are legitimately met and we become less ourselves.

Richard, Vancover BC