I am a divorced Dad, who looks after my eleven year daughter half-time, with a full-time job who likes to give her a good Christmas. This year I gave up “Have-To” over Christmas and had a better Christmas. I cut out trying to be super-Dad. I did not buy or have-to buy a big tree but got a small tree, a foot shorter than my tall daughter. It was a lot easier, fitted in the car, required half as many lights and was not overwhelming to decorate. The tree is a fluffy looking spruce and so fluffy, instead of big, became the celebratory theme for Christmas.